About Sanah Kotadia | therapist for moms
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Get to know me
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Get to know me ✧
I’m Sanah & work with ambitious moms who are exhausted from doing everything for everyone.
You’re the one people count on. You keep things moving at home, show up at work, and somehow hold all the details no one notices. But lately, it's been harder to balance all of it, and it feels like you’re drowning. Therapy can help.
Who I help
I specialize in helping people who struggle with the trifold of people-pleasing, perfectionism, and boundary-setting. I find that my clients are often high achievers who, though they have great intentions, deal with significant stressors and pressures which affect their quality of life.
Not sure if this is you? Below are several common indications that you may struggle with these challenges.
Signs you have poor boundaries:
Feeling guilty or ashamed when setting boundaries
Being overly passive and accommodating, even in situations that warrant assertiveness.
Taking on too much responsibility for others' feelings & actions.
Difficulty saying no to unreasonable requests or demands.
Constantly trying to please others, even at the expense of one's own well-being.
Signs you may have perfectionistic tendencies:
Constantly setting high, often unrealistic, standards for oneself & others.
Extreme self-criticism & a fear of making mistakes.
Difficulty completing tasks due to excessive procrastination or overthinking.
An all-or-nothing thinking pattern, where things are either perfect or a failure.
Difficulty delegating tasks or asking for help.
Signs you may struggle with people pleasing:
Avoiding conflict & trying to keep the peace at all times.
Putting one's own goals and aspirations on hold for the sake of others.
Prioritizing others' needs & feelings over one's own.
Feeling unfulfilled and resentful in personal relationships and other areas of life.
Going out of one's way to please others, often to the point of exhaustion.
Signs you may have undiagnosed ADHD:
I also have an emerging specialty area of adult women with undiagnosed ADHD. Some common challenges these individuals face include:
Jumping from task to task
Poor time management skills
Hyperfocusing on certain tasks or activities
Day-dreaming
Trouble staying organized
Poor memory
Trouble completing projects
★★★★★
“Sanah is a compassionate and warm provider who genuinely is there to support her clients through some of the most challenging times.”
“She's a pleasure to collaborate with and brings in a mix of professional expertise as well as en empathetic approach when working with clients. Any client is lucky to have her as a provider!”
Kimberly Meehan
★★★★★
“I highly recommend her to any moms needing some support!”
“Sanah is a kind and caring therapist and person. She is passionate about her work with new moms and is able to perfectly balance professional expertise with personal empathy.”
Gabrielle Ferrara
★★★★★
“Sanah is a wonderful therapist who helps her clients manage the mental load of motherhood while also preventing burnout.”
“She is passionate, relatable, and empathetic. If you're looking for a therapist who gets it, and can help you find balance in motherhood, look no further!”
Laura Sandoval-Sweeney
More About Me
Before I became a mom, I was the person people went to when they needed something done. I built my career from that place, ambitious, organized, always on top of things.
But motherhood shifted that for me.
I found myself drowning in decisions, mental load, and invisible expectations I didn’t know I’d signed up for. I was still me, but more tired, more overwhelmed, and less sure of how to ask for help.
So when moms come to me saying things like,
“I feel like I’m failing at everything,”
“I shouldn’t be this resentful of my partner,”
or
“I miss the version of me that used to feel capable,”
I get it, not just professionally, but personally.
Before becoming a therapist, I spent nearly a decade in education, and I’ve worked in hospital settings supporting people through some of their hardest days. I bring all of that learning into our sessions, but I also bring my lived experience as a South Asian woman, as someone in an interfaith marriage, and as a mom who’s still figuring things out, too.
I work with ambitious moms and couples who care deeply about getting it right, but are tired of doing it all alone.
If that sounds like you, I’d love to support you in finding a version of life that feels more sustainable, more honest, and more yours.
Are you ready to make a change?
Starting therapy can feel like one more thing on your already-full plate.
But if you’ve been pushing through, balancing work meetings and preschool drop-offs, showing up for everyone and still feeling like it’s never enough, I want you to know there’s space here for you too.
You can care about your career and feel completely drained.
You can love your kids and miss the version of yourself who had more space to think, feel, and just be.
You can have a supportive partner and still be the one keeping track of everything that needs to get done.
I work with ambitious moms who are tired of overthinking every decision, tired of managing everything at home by default, and tired of wondering if this is just how life’s going to be now.
If that’s you, I see you. And I understand, both as a therapist and as someone who has lived it too.
My approach to therapy is warm, collaborative, and rooted in understanding the emotional reality of motherhood today, not just the logistics. I show up as a therapist, but also as a South Asian woman, an oldest daughter, a working mom, and someone who’s had to unlearn perfectionism and redefine what “being enough” actually means.
Whether you’re struggling with resentment in your relationship, trying to set boundaries that actually stick, or just want to feel like yourself again, I’m here to help you make space for that.
If this spoke to you, I’d be honored to support you.
My approach to therapy
I primarily use a Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) lens during my work with clients. CBT is a form of psychotherapy that focuses on the relationship between thoughts, feelings, and behaviors.
The main idea behind CBT is that negative thoughts and beliefs can lead to difficult emotions and unhelpful behavior patterns. CBT can help you identify and challenge these negative thoughts and beliefs and replace them with more balanced and realistic ones.
We’ll create a customized treatment plan that’s specific to your unique needs, values, and goals. With that being said, the key components of CBT include:
Identifying negative thought patterns and beliefs. This involves becoming aware of automatic thoughts, irrational beliefs, & thought distortions.
Challenging negative thoughts. This involves evaluating the evidence for & against negative thoughts & beliefs, & questioning their validity.
Reframing thoughts. This involves replacing negative thoughts & beliefs with more balanced & realistic ones.
Changing behaviors. This involves addressing problematic behaviors and teaching new, more effective coping skills & problem-solving strategies.
In addition to CBT, I also use an attachment-based lens. This approach helps us understand how your early experiences with attachment figures (i.e. parents) shape how you show up in relationships.
Interpersonal therapy is another central component of my therapeutic approach. In this method, we’ll explore how to use effective communication skills, and learn how to resolve conflict in a healthy, constructive way.
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Let's grow together
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Let's grow together ✧
Our Values:
Authenticity
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Openess
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Kindness
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Our Values: Authenticity ‣ Openess ‣ Kindness ‣