About Sanah Kotadia | therapist for moms | Houston, Dallas, Austin, San Antonio, TX
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Get to know me
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Get to know me ✧
I’m Sanah & work with ambitious moms who are exhausted from doing everything for everyone.
You’re the one people count on. You keep things moving at home, show up at work, and somehow hold all the details no one notices. But lately, it's been harder to balance all of it, and it feels like you’re drowning. Therapy can help.
More About Me
You’re balancing work deadlines, childcare pickups, remembering the birthday gift, texting the pediatrician, and trying to have an honest conversation with your partner that doesn’t get interrupted. You’ve always been the capable one, but lately, it feels like nothing gets your full attention. And even when you're doing everything, it still doesn't feel like enough.
Maybe you’ve found yourself thinking:
“I used to be able to handle all of this, so why does it feel so heavy now?”
“I know my partner’s trying, but why do I still feel like I’m the one keeping it all together?”
“I miss the version of me who felt clear, grounded, and confident.”
The moms and couples I work with aren’t looking for quick fixes. They’re thoughtful, emotionally intelligent, and used to being the ones others count on.
But under the surface, they’re burnt out from being the default parent, navigating emotional and mental labor no one else sees, and trying to hold up the invisible tasks that keep the household, relationship, and routines running.
In therapy, we don’t just name what’s not working; we figure out what needs to change.
-That might mean learning how to communicate without things turning into a fight.
-Getting clear on what’s yours to carry and what’s not.
-Breaking free from the pressure to be a “good mom” & working towards the version of motherhood that’s actually working for you.
-Or figuring out how to reconnect with your partner when it feels like you’re living parallel lives.
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Before becoming a therapist, I spent nearly a decade in education and worked in hospital settings supporting patients in crisis. But what shapes my work most is what I bring as a mom, a South Asian woman, an oldest daughter, and someone in an interfaith marriage. I know what it’s like to carry the weight of expectations, spoken and unspoken, and how hard it is to ask for more.
If you’re looking for a space that’s honest, collaborative, and focused on practical changes, not just venting, I’d love to work together.
Who I help
You’ve always been the one people could count on. You’re organized, responsible, and high-achieving.
But underneath that capability, you're also exhausted, overcommitted, and constantly second-guessing what you need to actually feel supported.
I work with ambitious women and couples who care deeply about their kids, their work, their relationships, and who are realizing that white-knuckling their way through it all isn’t working anymore.
If you’ve been feeling overwhelmed, resentful, or like your standards are slowly suffocating you, I feel that & I see you.
Here are a few signs you might be in the right place:
Perfectionism & People-Pleasing: You Set High Standards
You’ve always been the one others rely on. In your career, your family, and your friendships, you show up, follow through, and rarely drop the ball. But behind that hyper-competence is exhaustion, pressure, and a deep fear of disappointing people.
Signs this might sound like you:
You don’t relax; you research how to relax the “right” way
You worry you’re not being the mom/partner/employee you should be, no matter how much you’re already doing.
You’re the one who gets the praise but also the one who’s exhausted behind the scenes.
You spiral after small mistakes and replay conversations in your head
You say yes even when you’re drowning, then resent having to follow through
You feel anxious when someone’s upset with you, even if you did nothing wrong
You secretly wonder if your worth is tied to how productive or helpful you are
You feel like you have to do everything perfectly, or not at all
You rarely ask for help, because explaining it feels like more work
Postpartum Identity: When You Love Your Kids But Miss Yourself
You used to feel driven, creative, and in tune with yourself. But now, everything is filtered through what your child needs. You love being a mom—but you didn’t expect to feel this invisible, this lonely, or this different from who you used to be.
Signs this might sound like you:
You fantasize about a weekend alone and then feel guilty for even thinking that
You miss the parts of you that felt energized, curious, or confident before motherhood.
You wonder if your goals still matter or if they’re just on pause indefinitely.
You feel overstimulated all day and under-stimulated by your own life
You’re grieving parts of your personality that don’t feel accessible anymore
You wonder if you’re doing this wrong because other moms seem to be “thriving”
You’re tired of always being “on”
You’ve said, “I just want to feel like me again” more than once this month
The Mental Load: You’re the One Keeping Everything Running at Work & at Home
Your partner is involved, but somehow you’re the one keeping track of pediatrician appointments, what size shoes your kid wears, and who needs a birthday gift next week. The logistics, emotional labor, and invisible to-dos are nonstop.
Signs this might sound like you:
You mentally rehearse what you need to say before “asking” for help
You still have to remind your partner about the help you asked for
You’re the one who thinks ahead about meals, childcare, school forms, family dynamics…
You know you’re maxed out, but no one steps in until you completely lose it.
You’re scared to let go of control because if you don’t handle it, who will?
You’re trying to “communicate better,” but you’re met with defensiveness or shutdowns.
You feel like you’re managing your partner’s attention, your child’s needs, and your own burnout all at once.
You want your partner to take initiative, not just complete a checklist.
You’re Ambitious & Value Your Career, But Motherhood Shifted Everything
You care deeply about your work, your impact, and your growth. But since becoming a mom, everything feels heavier. You don’t want to abandon your career goals, but you're also not willing to keep sacrificing your sanity, relationship, or health.
Signs this might sound like you:
You feel like you’re failing at home and falling behind at work
You feel like you’re showing up everywhere, but never fully present anywhere.
You miss being able to dream big without wondering how it’ll affect your family
You want more support from your partner, so your ambition doesn’t come with resentment
You feel stuck between who you used to be and who you want to become now
You’ve thought, “I’m tired of being strong all the time”
You’re frustrated that your partner seems to balance work and parenting with less guilt.
★★★★★
“Sanah is a compassionate and warm provider who genuinely is there to support her clients through some of the most challenging times.”
“She's a pleasure to collaborate with and brings in a mix of professional expertise as well as en empathetic approach when working with clients. Any client is lucky to have her as a provider!”
Kimberly Meehan
★★★★★
“I highly recommend her to any moms needing some support!”
“Sanah is a kind and caring therapist and person. She is passionate about her work with new moms and is able to perfectly balance professional expertise with personal empathy.”
Gabrielle Ferrara
★★★★★
“Sanah is a wonderful therapist who helps her clients manage the mental load of motherhood while also preventing burnout.”
“She is passionate, relatable, and empathetic. If you're looking for a therapist who gets it, and can help you find balance in motherhood, look no further!”
Laura Sandoval-Sweeney
Are you ready to make a change?
Starting therapy can feel like one more thing on your already-full plate.
But if you’ve been pushing through, balancing work meetings and preschool drop-offs, showing up for everyone and still feeling like it’s never enough, I want you to know there’s space here for you too.
You can care about your career and feel completely drained.
You can love your kids and miss the version of yourself who had more space to think, feel, and just be.
You can have a supportive partner and still be the one keeping track of everything that needs to get done.
I work with ambitious moms who are tired of overthinking every decision, tired of managing everything at home by default, and tired of wondering if this is just how life’s going to be now.
If that’s you, I see you. And I understand, both as a therapist and as someone who has lived it too.
My approach to therapy is warm, collaborative, and rooted in understanding the emotional reality of motherhood today, not just the logistics. I show up as a therapist, but also as a South Asian woman, an oldest daughter, a working mom, and someone who’s had to unlearn perfectionism and redefine what “being enough” actually means.
Whether you’re struggling with resentment in your relationship, trying to set boundaries that actually stick, or just want to feel like yourself again, I’m here to help you make space for that.
If this spoke to you, I’d be honored to support you.
My approach to therapy
I primarily use a Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) lens during my work with clients. CBT is a form of psychotherapy that focuses on the relationship between thoughts, feelings, and behaviors.
The main idea behind CBT is that negative thoughts and beliefs can lead to difficult emotions and unhelpful behavior patterns. CBT can help you identify and challenge these negative thoughts and beliefs and replace them with more balanced and realistic ones.
We’ll create a customized treatment plan that’s specific to your unique needs, values, and goals. With that being said, the key components of CBT include:
Identifying negative thought patterns and beliefs. This involves becoming aware of automatic thoughts, irrational beliefs, & thought distortions.
Challenging negative thoughts. This involves evaluating the evidence for & against negative thoughts & beliefs, & questioning their validity.
Reframing thoughts. This involves replacing negative thoughts & beliefs with more balanced & realistic ones.
Changing behaviors. This involves addressing problematic behaviors and teaching new, more effective coping skills & problem-solving strategies.
In addition to CBT, I also use an attachment-based lens. This approach helps us understand how your early experiences with attachment figures (i.e. parents) shape how you show up in relationships.
Interpersonal therapy is another central component of my therapeutic approach. In this method, we’ll explore how to use effective communication skills, and learn how to resolve conflict in a healthy, constructive way.
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Let's grow together
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Let's grow together ✧
Our Values:
Authenticity
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Openess
‣
Kindness
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Our Values: Authenticity ‣ Openess ‣ Kindness ‣